Tuesday, April 22, 2003
Monday, April 14, 2003
Ok let's start w/my coffee tasted like CRAP this morning - highly unusual for me since I am FAR from a coffee connisaur (sp?) but I can usually make a decent pot of coffee - soooo on the advise of Eliz I ran thru some vinegar and then lots and lots and lots of water... let's hope the am pot is MUCH better!! I must have coffee to function in the am and payday is 3 days away!
I had my IEP review/revision meeting w/the school for Deven today... I wanted an aide for Deven but they of course nixed that... they said they had tried the last week or so various people sitting w/him to help out and mostly he responded w/"get away from me" as if they were invading his personal space.... Yes Deven DOES have issues w/personal space and having it invaded, I do too but ummmmmm MOST ADHD kids and the such will NOT ask for help nor will they willingly accept it as it would show others the downfalls/shortcomings that they want to hide - much like a dyslexic child who managed to get thru years of school before being discovered.... However they feel this is not the case w/Deven... When the guid. councelor was in the room he didn't want her to help him til after she had been helping other children for about 20 min... *sigh*
However they don't know what to do to motivate him and to be honest I don't EITHER!! The behavior chart w/stars isn't working well and he just seems soo defiant esp at school... ahhh yes - ODD!!! But of course - many children have more then just ADHD and I have to say that ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) has been mentioned w/Deven before**
SOOOO we brainstormed on things Deven likes or we think would motivate him.... He LOVES NASCAR and lately bowling so mommy is gonna add bowling and slot car racing to the list of choices for XX number of stars each week and perhaps even a mid week bowling trip if he earns it... and we are gonna allow good school behavior to earn more then one star at home if he does well... I am gonna invest in a little beeping timer for Deven for school to help him sit for 10 min at a time to earn stickers at school - for so many he will get to pick from the treasure chest in room... and I am going to get an answering machine and put it on the extra phone line and when he has a good day he will get to use the teacher's cell phone to call and tell me all about his good day.... Ok so all of this is NOT exactly what I thought I would get out of the meeting - gee sounds a bit like *I* am spending more $$$ in the end doesn't it?? But gee they smile and talk sooo sweetie to you at the school don't they??? (Yes Eliz I know you warned me and I probably caved too easily but I can always re-evaluate things in a few weeks) And to be honest we still have another week before the first full 6 wks on the Strattera is complete...
**I have been doing some research though and I am tempted to ask the doc if perhaps seeing how we definately have some ODD there too if maybe a combo of drugs might work... like maybe throwing in a small dose of Adderall or Concerta into the works might help - gonna talk to the psychologist Thursday and feel out his thoughts on this...
Deven started his day w/complaining of a stomachache this morning from the start - he didn't want to get on bus - called me TWICE before 11:30 that his tummy hurt and he wanted to come home... we made him tuff it out til after lunch and he agreed esp after both daddy and I told him there would be no park if he came home sick... Since we had to run out we stopped by school to check on/get him after lunch... Well once AGAIN he didn't get recess due to behavior - I once again voiced my disappointment of this recourse for Deven - if he was just ADD I might agree w/it but he's adHd people - he NEEDS to burn off energy!!!! - the school guidance councelor/psychologist agreed w/me...
Once home he had a quiet time for a bit and just sorta played in his room/vegged - then of course he wanted to go outside... well we told him there would be NO park, bike, etc this afternoon due to his being "sick" - insert the tears, crying, I feel fine, etc here! *L* He had to do his homework before any decisions were made - he did 2.5 pages (2 math, one writing) and we allowed a 30 min reprieve.... He was fairly well behaved for the rest of day and out cold by 7-7:15pm - I had to wake him at 8 for his meds and he was out cold again immediately after swallowing his pill... Hummmmm maybe he really DOESN"T feel well... *sigh* Well just 2 more days to get thru and then 7 school days of spring break....
E and I had an amicable day - we even managed to work together when dealing w/Deven... he did a little yard work and we went to pick up some groceries together... it was actually a little scarey but in all honesty I only see him as the father of my children these days and not much else... but a peaceful day is nice to experience...
Well I am wiped out - it's late - the dishes are still there piling up more, the laundry isn't folded, the dog created more by puking on a blanket... *sigh* My work never ends - however it is gonna wait for tomorrow! *L* Til next time...
Ok let's start w/my coffee tasted like CRAP this morning - highly unusual for me since I am FAR from a coffee connisaur (sp?) but I can usually make a decent pot of coffee - soooo on the advise of Eliz I ran thru some vinegar and then lots and lots and lots of water... let's hope the am pot is MUCH better!! I must have coffee to function in the am and payday is 3 days away!
I had my IEP review/revision meeting w/the school for Deven today... I wanted an aide for Deven but they of course nixed that... they said they had tried the last week or so various people sitting w/him to help out and mostly he responded w/"get away from me" as if they were invading his personal space.... Yes Deven DOES have issues w/personal space and having it invaded, I do too but ummmmmm MOST ADHD kids and the such will NOT ask for help nor will they willingly accept it as it would show others the downfalls/shortcomings that they want to hide - much like a dyslexic child who managed to get thru years of school before being discovered.... However they feel this is not the case w/Deven... When the guid. councelor was in the room he didn't want her to help him til after she had been helping other children for about 20 min... *sigh*
However they don't know what to do to motivate him and to be honest I don't EITHER!! The behavior chart w/stars isn't working well and he just seems soo defiant esp at school... ahhh yes - ODD!!! But of course - many children have more then just ADHD and I have to say that ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) has been mentioned w/Deven before**
SOOOO we brainstormed on things Deven likes or we think would motivate him.... He LOVES NASCAR and lately bowling so mommy is gonna add bowling and slot car racing to the list of choices for XX number of stars each week and perhaps even a mid week bowling trip if he earns it... and we are gonna allow good school behavior to earn more then one star at home if he does well... I am gonna invest in a little beeping timer for Deven for school to help him sit for 10 min at a time to earn stickers at school - for so many he will get to pick from the treasure chest in room... and I am going to get an answering machine and put it on the extra phone line and when he has a good day he will get to use the teacher's cell phone to call and tell me all about his good day.... Ok so all of this is NOT exactly what I thought I would get out of the meeting - gee sounds a bit like *I* am spending more $$$ in the end doesn't it?? But gee they smile and talk sooo sweetie to you at the school don't they??? (Yes Eliz I know you warned me and I probably caved too easily but I can always re-evaluate things in a few weeks) And to be honest we still have another week before the first full 6 wks on the Strattera is complete...
**I have been doing some research though and I am tempted to ask the doc if perhaps seeing how we definately have some ODD there too if maybe a combo of drugs might work... like maybe throwing in a small dose of Adderall or Concerta into the works might help - gonna talk to the psychologist Thursday and feel out his thoughts on this...
Deven started his day w/complaining of a stomachache this morning from the start - he didn't want to get on bus - called me TWICE before 11:30 that his tummy hurt and he wanted to come home... we made him tuff it out til after lunch and he agreed esp after both daddy and I told him there would be no park if he came home sick... Since we had to run out we stopped by school to check on/get him after lunch... Well once AGAIN he didn't get recess due to behavior - I once again voiced my disappointment of this recourse for Deven - if he was just ADD I might agree w/it but he's adHd people - he NEEDS to burn off energy!!!! - the school guidance councelor/psychologist agreed w/me...
Once home he had a quiet time for a bit and just sorta played in his room/vegged - then of course he wanted to go outside... well we told him there would be NO park, bike, etc this afternoon due to his being "sick" - insert the tears, crying, I feel fine, etc here! *L* He had to do his homework before any decisions were made - he did 2.5 pages (2 math, one writing) and we allowed a 30 min reprieve.... He was fairly well behaved for the rest of day and out cold by 7-7:15pm - I had to wake him at 8 for his meds and he was out cold again immediately after swallowing his pill... Hummmmm maybe he really DOESN"T feel well... *sigh* Well just 2 more days to get thru and then 7 school days of spring break....
E and I had an amicable day - we even managed to work together when dealing w/Deven... he did a little yard work and we went to pick up some groceries together... it was actually a little scarey but in all honesty I only see him as the father of my children these days and not much else... but a peaceful day is nice to experience...
Well I am wiped out - it's late - the dishes are still there piling up more, the laundry isn't folded, the dog created more by puking on a blanket... *sigh* My work never ends - however it is gonna wait for tomorrow! *L* Til next time...
